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Recently this topic has been heavy on my heart, and what better way to get it off my chest than to share it with you guys! Okay, so let’s talk about what the heck happened to dating.
If we’re being honest the idea for this post came to me while I was listening to a group of friends talk next to me in the nail salon… oopsie. Anyway, the girls were going back and forth deciding if their friend had really been on a date, or if they were just “casually hanging out”. As I kept listening to the friends I got more and more frustrated with our generation, and modern dating as a whole.
So I got to thinking. What happened to actual dating?
You know, the kind where a guy would call you and make dinner plans for the next week. The kind where you actually get dressed up, and where he came to the door. The kind where when you are talking with your girlfriends you can confidently categorize it as a date.
Nowadays it seems like dates are very last minute, and no one really goes up to your door any gives you flowers anymore. Although I am probably the least romantic girl out there, I would still appreciate a knock on the door and real plan. Not a “date” where you get a text around dinner time with a guy saying “hey wanna get food” which then leads to Whataburger and separate checks.
I envy the times my parents talk about when dates were actual dates. When guys gave you flowers, and actually rang the doorbell. Come on guys, we’re not asking for that much.
Okay, I swear I am not bitter, and I do not think all guys are terrible. In fact, it’s not even the male populations fault, it’s our whole generation in the wrong. It seems my generation of millennials is more used to and comfortable with the more casual route of things. But girls, we deserve more than the last minute Whataburger date.
What do you think about modern dating or just dating in general?
Mr. Moore is spot on. They guys your age haven’t had a lot of life experiences and don’t have the confidence to actually talk to a Woman as equal adults. They haven’t yet learned that they want Quality over Quantity when it comes to the people they spend their time with. Most of them will grow up eventually.
Your article, in conjunction with this one, http://blogs.davelozinski.com/dating/modern-dating-in-2016 hits the nail on the head about dating in today’s society. Modern dating. Why do we even call it dating any more because even people who are “dating” don’t refer to it a dating. Anyway, just wanted to say good article and keep up the great writing!
I love everything about this! Just connected with you through insta and I can’t wait to see how your blog grows! (:
Chivalry and actual romantic dinners followed by stroll along the water glistening in moonlight should never die. Its not just “romantic” it’s a way of getting to know someone. Really getting to know them. Dating is a form of communication. It’s a journey. Today, texting, fb, and Twitter have taken away the most important link to deeper relationships: dating!
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I so agree about the technology part- it really has taken away from everyone’s connection. Especially when talking about dates, and getting to know someone.
Hang in there slugger. The guys haven’t grown up yet. You don’t want to date a Whataburger guy anyway. Once you and Rachel get out in the work force, you’ll meet real grown up guys with the values y’all are looking for. All the good guys have been busy going to school and worrying about having a life…just like y’all.
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Thank you so much for reading, and leaving your thoughts!
But you are so right!